I want to begin with an apology. I’m sorry I haven’t written. I’m sure you’ve wondered what’s been going on and why you haven’t heard from me. Well, like most lives, mine got full and something had to be set – aside for a time. I unfortunately chose my writing. But there has been so much going on to write about that I have to get started again!
A significant season has come to an end in my life. It wasn’t sudden; I saw the signs of the change coming. But it has ended. I exhale and realize that all I focused my life on for 25 years has shifted. The season of parenting has come to an end. *sniff*
No one has died; but my two chicks have grown to adults and have flown from the nest. And that is how it should be. But there is a temptation to sadness in looking back over their childhood and youthful years and remembering all the hurts or left undones. I don’t know about you but I must choose to see all the goods and well dones too. My tendencies are toward the not enough rather than good enough.
But as I look at the men I have had the distinct privilege of raising the only thing I do see is the goodness of God. He loves well. He has grown these little boys into strong, capable, compassionate men in spite of my meddling in His work. I am left with the knowledge that God built them to be who they are; my dear husband and I were the stewards, the caretakers of them for a time. Now we have given them back. We still have opportunity to influence through prayer and the giving of occasional sought out advice but they are done being parented.
So now what do I do with myself?
Ideas? I have some but I’d love to hear yours!
I can totally relate to your comments and question, “So now what do I do with myself?” I am asking myself that question often these days. It is a bitter sweet situation, being an empty nester — I have been focused on being a mom for so many years that now with that role gone, feels truly empty! Not only is the nest empty but the heart a little as well. Let me know when you have the answer to the question!
I appreciate your honesty; this is a big change with deep effects. Don’t think I have THE answer but I definitely will share my process. Thanks for commenting.
The Clark family of FOUR suggests that you venture eastward for some youngin’ snuggling…
I agree! Let’s compare our summer calendars!
You are a instrument of The Lord. Give yourself time to feel all the feelings that you are having. Be still and trust in Him. I know that you have so many ideas fluttering around in your mind. There will be time for those. Take time to pray and listen to God. He will never let you down. He will lead you when you are ready to explore one of your heart’s desires. I have shared your feeling of the empty nest. Now living with two back at home. I understand so well your feelings of going towards the tendencies of not enough. I am stuck in that place. I am trying to trust in The Lord and be still. One of the harder things for me. You are an inspiration. I can’t wait to see where He may lead you in your next calling. Your faith is strong. Your love and trust in The Lord is even stronger. He knows the plans he has for you. Though they may cause you to be fearful. I never think of you that backs away from a challenge. May the Good Lord bless you in the months to come and show you his plans for you. May you have the courage to push the thoughts aside that you are not good enough. He believes you are. He is the only way. You are reaching others and we are learning from you.
I’ve been thinking of you and praying for you during this transition. I understand, but feel that we will always be parents. The day to day interactions may be fewer and farther between, but you will always be their one and only mother. One of the best I know, too!
God knew what He was doing when He blessed you with those two wonderful sons.
You have so much to give, that I’m sure you will find something that will fill that need…you are not one to remain idle for long. How about volunteering for a literacy program for children or adults? I know how much you love to read.
No matter what you decide to do, I know you will do it with your whole heart.
I would love to come see you and spend some time talking it over…let me know when 🙂
Love you!