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How Do You Cope When Your Heart is Heavy?

November 12, 2018 By Lisa Lewis

News that causes you to gasp.

Skies that are acrid with smoke. Possessions, homes, pets, LIVES lost.

Text messages and phone calls that shift the earth off its known axis; from where I sit anyway. Cancer.

All three things happened Friday. My heart sank like a rock into water. Heavy for all the hard things.

How do you cope when your heart is heavy?

Circumstances like these may be our training ground; seeing the hurts of others and feeling the weight of their losses can cause a desire to respond, to help in some way. What if we don’t know what’s the best thing to do?

Pray.

I know there is at least one person reading this whose response to that suggestion was something like:” that’s not doing anything. What am I supposed to DO?” How do I know that? Because that was me.

I’d hear a person who had been a Christ-follower longer than me tell a group of women to pray and because of where I was in my faith journey, I didn’t think that was as important as getting out and gathering donations or making meals or whatever physical thing seemed like the best next thing to do.

Don’t get me wrong: physical actions are often the thing that praying can lead to. But doing doesn’t shift your heavy heart. 

Doing without praying distracts your heart. Doing alone won’t lift your heart.

Only God can lift your/my heavy heart. Talking to Him, telling Him what is weighing your heart down is exactly the place to begin.

It is a brave step to admit your heart is heavy. I’ve tried to go about my regular life without acknowledging the weightiness. I am cranky, grumpy and not nice to be around. Often when I’ve distracted myself from what’s weighing down my heart, it’s still bugging me but the reality isn’t uppermost in my mind so I can’t explain why I’m out of sorts, which only makes it all worse.

Let’s be brave, admit hard things weigh down our hearts and ask God to help us. We can look to His Word for passages of encouragement. Peter encourages us to cast all our cares upon Him because He cares for us. The Psalms say He is the lifter of my head; that He is a shield about me; that He is a strong tower that I may run into to.

My favorite passage?

Come to Me all who are weary and heavy burdened and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.

Full disclosure: I’m a cry-er. God has wired me with empathy as my number one strength. I feel deeply, so when I pray I am often weeping over the cares of others. But when I am done praying, my soul is unburdened. I’ve given those cares to the Only One who can truly do anything useful. Sometimes He invites me to take an action, like write a card, send a text, give resources. Sometimes He simply gives me rest for my soul.

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Filed Under: Encouragement, Faith, Hope, Personal Tagged With: Matthew 11:28-30, pray

Comments

  1. Cindy Fletcher says

    November 12, 2018 at 8:11 pm

    Thank you for sharing what you do when your heart is heavy. I am going through some difficult times now with my mother-in-law who lives with us having terminal cancer, and this helps to know that prayer is the number one way to unburden my heart. Of course I still do the actions that are appropriate, but spending time with God and literally crying out to Him also helps me find rest.

    • Lisa Lewis says

      November 12, 2018 at 10:23 pm

      Oh Cindy! I’m so sorry to hear of your Mum-in-law’s cancer condition; providing care for her while also parenting must be extremely difficult. No matter what it’s hard to watch someone we love decline. I’m so sorry that you and your family are walking this path of suffering. Thank you so much for letting me know what you’re walking through; I will be praying.

      Since Eugene Peterson’s passing a few weeks ago, I have been reading the scriptures in the Message. When I considered what encouragement to offer you here, Lamentations 3 came to mind. Here is the familiar passage in the Message:

      “I’ll never forget the trouble, the utter lostness, the taste of ashes, the poison I’ve swallowed. I remember it all–oh, how well I remember–the feeling of hitting the bottom. But there’s one other thing I remember, and remembering, I keep a grip on hope: God’s loyal love couldn’t have run out, his merciful love couldn’t have dried up. How great is your faithfulness! I’m sticking with God (I say it over and over). He’s all I’ve got left. God proves to be good to the man who passionately waits, to the woman who diligently seeks. It’s a good thing to quietly hope for help from God. It’s a good thing when you’re young to stick it out through the hard times.” The rest of the passage is also full of encouragement.

      I will be in prayer for you Cindy, for Andrew and the rest of the family.
      Yours along the Way,

      Lisa

  2. Joy Snyder says

    November 15, 2018 at 10:35 pm

    This was so great! The “doing” speaks right to my Martha heart! And it’s so true, the doing won’t lift my burdened heart. Thank you for this!

    • Lisa Lewis says

      November 16, 2018 at 12:35 am

      Sharing only what I’ve learned the hard way Joy! God has shown me and reminded me gently for 15 years to reshape my doing to learn to look to Him instead of trying to fill my heart with efforts or things! It just proves He is a long-suffering God, knowing just the right amount of encouragement and reminders we need as we let go and lean in!

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I am a native California girl married to my best friend, Colin; we currently live and work in the Silicon Valley. I am privileged to be mom to two fantastic grown sons, mom-in-law to a wonderful daughter, and recent Mimi to a grand-daughter! On any given Saturday, you can see my hubster and I out on our tandem bike somewhere, enjoying the beauty of creation! Read More…

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