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Do You Know What You Know?

July 2, 2018 By Lisa Lewis

Monday.

Somehow this poor day of the week has gotten a bad rep. Can we pin the bad rep on the  ’86 Bangles hit Manic Monday?

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I don’t think so. A quick search turns up decades more negative associations with Mondays; the beginning of the work week seems to be the culprit.

What if we shift our mindset from ‘bummer in the summer’ on Mondays to a more upbeat, positive spin?

What if over the next month we daily decide to think differently about something rather than let our brain shift to neutral and simply play the default response pattern?

I love learning. I’m wired like that. I know not everyone is and I don’t want to lose you here but if you can bear with me for just a moment, I have a good point to make and science and faith practices to back it up.

It’s said that our minds are the center of our functions as human beings. So if we change our thought patterns, we change our beliefs, which in turn shapes our actions. Neurobiology is showing that as we have a thought, a neuron fires looking for a connection point to continue moving the thought forward. As we think we develop neuro-pathways. When we think the same thought more than once, that pathway is reinforced. Think it multiple times a day and we develop a deep groove in our brains. This process is how we memorize, how we bond with loved ones, how we learn to drive, how we form opinions and so it goes.

If we don’t like the way we feel about something, we can change our thoughts about that and our feelings will follow. Sounds simple, right?

Because of what we have learned about how the brain works, shifting a mindset is a long process of repetition that must be done with awareness and intention.

In other words, one decision does not change one behavior.

Bummer. I’m always on the look out for easy, aren’t you?

Back to Mondays. I used to think Mondays were the worst. I dreaded the beginning of the week because it was work. And work meant hard, repetitive, boring drudgery. No wonder I didn’t like Mondays! Is this you?

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I began shifting my mindset about Mondays before I had learned anything about the science of change. I made some conscious choices to prepare for Monday on Friday before I left work. I created a habit of closing out the work week by preparing to come back Monday morning with as many tasks ready to begin as possible, minimizing the jolt of hitting the ground running on Monday morning.

Some people might label that perfectionist. As a Enneagram 7, the Enthusiast, my stretch line goes to 1 which is called the Perfectionist or Reformer. I had to learn to be consistent and disciplined like that; it’s not a dysfunction unless you HAVE TO HAVE things just so. Side note: do you know your Enneagram core type? I coach using the lens of the Enneagram so if you want to know more, let me know!

Here is my Monday yellow notepad motivation for us all:

Deciding isn’t the hard part.

Follow through is the challenge for me. What about you?

Filed Under: Coaching, Encouragement, Personal, rhythm of life, Show Up, Time Management Tagged With: choices, enneagram, enthusiast, intentional, mindset, Monday, perfectionist, plans

Does This Happen to You?

September 30, 2014 By Lisa Lewis

Do you ever feel like you’re falling behind in your day before it really gets started?

You have a reasonable list of things to work through; it’s not over full but getting through to the bottom will keep you busy all day.

And then a curve ball gets thrown your way and you’re just not ready for it.

That happened this morning.  I really desire to show the Fruit of the Spirit wherever I go and with whom I interact.  Well today I, well, failed miserably.

All before 9 am.

Now mind you I had already had my coffee with Jesus and read Jesus Calling and my daily Scripture reading and my Mornings with Tozer devotional.  I had chatted with my hubster.  I had taken photos in the garden.  It was all glorious.

Then a text came in that jarred my serene countenance and the old self showed up in a big way.

What happened to applying all that I had just encountered?  Where did that peace go?  How did I so quickly dive head long into the depths of a yucky attitude?

I don’t know is the short answer.  I missed the choice point.  The place where I got to choose a slow, deliberate, patient response or the quick-tempered off the top of my head reaction.  I chose unwisely.

We always have them.  Choice Points.  My sweet mentor used that phrase so many times to remind me at each encounter God was giving me opportunity to learn discretion, discernment, wisdom.  Those characteristics aren’t ones we’re born with; they are earned from making the wise choice time and again.

What happens when we don’t choose wisely? Like this morning?  Is the whole day ruined by this one poor choice?  Do we just give up and figure we’ll start over tomorrow?

The short answer? NO

Start again. As soon as possible.

Admit your poor choice and ask for forgiveness; first to the Lord, then to the person (or people) who need to hear you ask for forgiveness.  You are forgiven because Christ paid for that poor choice already.  (that doesn’t mean you get a free pass to sin all the more! see Romans 6:1)

I have no promise that your asking for forgiveness from the one(s) you wronged will turn out great or even ok.  But taking the time to admit what happened and ask forgiveness is a demonstration of the inner work of the Spirit of God in your life.  Don’t just gloss over what happened as if it didn’t.  I know it’s tempting.  I’ve done it too.  It’s no good because you just end up feeling yucky all day long.  So get real as gently and as quickly as possible.

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Jesus told us if your eye is clear your whole body will be full of light.  Basically, when you know you’re forgiven and you live out that forgiveness, you see life clearly.  You see glimpses of God everywhere.  (see the bit of rainbow?)

I know sometimes you feel as if you’re all alone shining your light

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but God has promised He will never leave you or forget you.

Never.  In fact Paul tells us in his second letter to the church at Corinth: “But thanks be to God who always leads us in His triumph in Christ, and manifests through us the sweet aroma of the knowledge of Him in every place.”

Even when you choose unwisely.

Forgiveness isn’t to be taken lightly.  Our relationship with Christ isn’t to be taken lightly either.  He calls us Friends.  His grace to us cost Him everything.  But accepting His forgiveness and grace brand new can feel like the discovery of new life when it’s not the season

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Strawberries in September?

Reminding myself this morning of how vital forgiveness is helped get me back on track with the day.  Even when it was temporarily derailed so early.

We are called to live differently in this world.  Do the unexpected.  Ask for forgiveness.

And be forgiving.

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He is always with you, shining Light on your next step toward His home…

Filed Under: Encouragement, Hope, Personal Tagged With: choices, forgiveness, wisdom

Meet Lisa…

I am a native California girl married to my best friend, Colin; we currently live and work in the Silicon Valley. I am privileged to be mom to two fantastic grown sons, mom-in-law to a wonderful daughter, and recent Mimi to a grand-daughter! On any given Saturday, you can see my hubster and I out on our tandem bike somewhere, enjoying the beauty of creation! Read More…

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