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Living in Tandem Requires Movement (Day 3)

October 3, 2015 By Lisa Lewis

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This quote is attributed to Albert Einstein.

What’s true of an individual bicycle is definitely true in tandem cycling.  It’s a lot easier to fall over when you’re not moving forward! And moving implies change.

I’m aware that some of you reading may not be in a committed relationship and you might think this blog series isn’t geared to your season of life.  I want to state here on Day 3 of #write31days that Living in Tandem is primarily about learning to live in tandem with God,  our One True Captain.  And although my friend Peggy suggested tandem cycling to help me deal with my marriage, God had bigger plans. Tandem cycling is a metaphor I have learned for my spiritual life.  I didn’t know that I was going to grow spiritually in this cycling challenge at first.  Most of the time I was praying super spiritual prayers like “Please don’t let us die! Our boys are too young to lose their parents!” Or really selfless prayers like “if we crash just let it be over quick!  I’m ready to be with You Jesus!”  But as the training rides got longer and I became a better stoker I had more time to relax into what I was seeing and experiencing. On those rides the Lord started to show me how my need for control in all my relationships (family, friends, work, etc.) was evidence that I was NOT TRUSTING God.  Ouch.

Here’s how I know.  You can see the picture:

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You can’t ride a tandem alone from the back.  You need someone in the front to be the Captain.  The Captain steers, brakes, shifts gears and helps balance the bicycle whether at a stop or on the move.  The stoker (the back seat rider) balances, pedals and encourages the Captain.  From this list, who has more responsibility?

If I kept trying to steer from the back we would tip over.  I can’t shift; the levers are on the front handlebars.  I can’t brake either for the same reason. I can however help balance by not moving around on the saddle.  I have to pedal because the bike is designed with in sync pedals; working together to move forward, and keep moving forward, is a huge part of this metaphor.

We need to communicate to move. And the Captain initiates the communication.

Let that sink in.

I’m not the one to say “Hey! Here’s my plan. Let’s go.”  Well I can say it, and I can push the bike forward, but if it’s not the Captain’s idea, the results are likely to be unpleasant, at best. I began to see the spiritual connections, even though I’m sometimes a slow learner.

God initiates the momentum for movement in my spiritual life. I respond. I have a part to play but I’m not in control.  The Captain is.

These musings spilled over to meditating on Romans 12:1

I urge you therefore brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service of worship.

See that phrase that tells us it’s all God’s initiating? …by the mercies of God…

Because of what He has already done, I am able to learn to live in tandem with Him.

My cooperation allows the tandem to move forward.

How is your cooperation with God? Learning to listen and cooperate is part of Living in Tandem.

Filed Under: Encouragement, Living in Tandem, Personal Tagged With: Einstein, Living in Tandem, spiritual life

What is Essential?

September 13, 2013 By Lisa Lewis

Our college freshman texted and asked for a care package with a batch of our family’s chocolate chip cookies.  What a sweet request! (no pun intended)  There was one problem: I didn’t have anything I needed to bake them for him.  All of my kitchen is packed in boxes while we are in transition!

Three weeks have passed since his sweet request.  What self-respecting mother waits three weeks to send her son cookies?!

Battling discouragement because of our self-inflicted nomadic life style, I determined to send him homemade cookies.  I set off to buy the ingredients, the basic tools and bake a batch of cookies.  How hard could that be?  I’ve baked them at least once a month for 14 years for heaven’s sake!

No recipe. No baking utensils. No ingredients.  I was up for the challenge.

You might simply use the Toll House Cookie recipe on the back of the chocolate chip bag.  That’s straightforward.  But he wanted our family recipe.  Which is in a box, within a box, in a storage unit.  So I had to shop from memory.

There’s a story about the recipe (aren’t family recipes like that?).  Years ago our oldest son took a cooking class and was challenged to make a significant change to said Toll House recipe and see if the results were edible.  He did and they were and continue to be.  We call the recipe Matthew’s Chocolate Chip Cookies.  No other cookies will do in our house.

Do you have a recipe memorized?  I wasn’t sure if I did.  But I was bound and determined to give it my best.

photo(58) Here’s how they turned out.  They don’t look like they normally do.

Was it the missing ingredient? (compared with Toll House I left out one thing!)

Or was it the missing gas oven and Pampered Chef stoneware and cookie scoop?

Or was it more than one thing?

What’s the excuse?

We sacrificed our Vegan diet to taste test before mailing.

Texture was different but flavor was yummy.

I mailed them today; the jury is still out on how they really turned out.

 

I almost let the discouragement and frustration with my circumstances keep me from making every effort to bless someone I love dearly.

Does that happen to you? Do you let one thing keep you from taking the step to bless someone?

Your house isn’t as clean as you’d like it so you don’t invite the new neighbor over for coffee.

You’re too busy to bake for your family so it’s store bought again.

I was faced with the question: what is essential?  Will my son stop loving me if the cookies aren’t like he expected them?

Maybe.

Hopefully not.

What is essential in the big scheme of life?  (I like to ask myself this question to keep me from spinning out of control)

How you answer that question may be different for you than me, but knowing what is essential is the journey of the spiritual life.  I know of these two sisters who initially had different answers to the question of what is essential.

True confession: I am like Martha.  I try to be like Mary.  Really I do.  But I get worried and bothered by so many things…

Like whether or not I have the right tools to bake a batch of cookies.  It was enough to make me cry.  Then I heard Jesus’s words in my ear…

Lisa, Lisa, you are worried and bothered about so many things, but only one thing is important… slow down and be with Jesus.  That stopped me in my tracks.  Being with Jesus is my answer to what is essential.  Being with Him first makes all the rest of the stuff get in the proper place; after Jesus.

Letting go of what I think is essential and taking on what Jesus knows is essential is a daily transformation.  A challenge for sure. But so worth the effort!

Oh and about those cookies.  What do you think is one ingredient that can be left out and they’ll still turn out ok?  Let me know your answer in the comments!

 

 

Filed Under: Encouragement, Parenting, Personal, Thankfulness Tagged With: baking tools, care package, chocolate chip cookies, college, spiritual life

Meet Lisa…

I am a native California girl married to my best friend, Colin; we currently live and work in the Silicon Valley. I am privileged to be mom to two fantastic grown sons, mom-in-law to a wonderful daughter, and recent Mimi to a grand-daughter! On any given Saturday, you can see my hubster and I out on our tandem bike somewhere, enjoying the beauty of creation! Read More…

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