Living in Tandem

What is Enough?

October 10, 2015 By Lisa Lewis

The sun is just up over the horizon, the house is quiet, the only noise the hum of the refrigerator. Outside is a different thing.

Birds of countless varieties are moving and chattering; calling out their finds of bugs, worms, seeds.

Beads of dew on blades of grass catching new light as if a thousand diamonds grace the ground.

All is quiet for a moment; a hush of new day awareness.

A mockingbird begins its litany of imitations with the loudest voice in the yard and the chorus begins anew.

A hummingbird swoops into view, hovers near the lemon tree where the fragrance of the tree draws in search of a blossom to dip into to.

This moment is enough.

What does that even mean?

In a culture that looks for the next best thing, seeks more than what is and uses “never” to pair with enough, it’s hard to imagine that something that simple and quiet can be called enough.

And yet, it’s moments like this our soul finds satisfaction.

How can we capture moments? How do we learn to see them in the first place?

Practice. It’s possible to learn to see, learn to hear. Jesus said let them who have eyes to see, see. Let them who have ears to hear, hear. That seems to me to be an invitation to ask for that to be true for me. For each of us.

Some call it mindfulness. Some use the phrase living with intention.

I call it Living in Tandem.

Living in Tandem with the One who offers the gift of each moment. It’s learning to live aware. Aware of subtlety. Aware of the expanse hidden in a seed.

Aware of His abiding Presence.

One of the greatest tools I have come across for developing this awareness of God’s Presence is the little book Practicing the Presence of God by Brother Lawrence.

Brother Lawrence was a Carmelite monk in 17^th century Paris. Before he joined the monastery he served in the army because he was so poor he knew he would be fed and clothed in turn for his serving. While in the army in the dead of winter, he saw a tree which was of course without leaves or fruit. He realized the tree as a symbol of hope for new life. It was at that moment “first flashed in upon my soul the fact of God”. This point of conversion led him to eventually join the Carmelite monastery in Paris.

Brother Lawrence was a simple man without advanced learning yet his simple awareness of God’s abiding Presence was noticed by all who encountered him. We have Abbe de Beaufort to thank for having conversations with Brother Lawrence and writing them down for us to be able to glean for our own spiritual growth. If you have not yet read this thin book I highly recommend you do.

Developing awareness of God is a life long practice. And yet God wants to be found by us, to have our hearts turned toward Him, to learn to trust Him.

What is enough? You are. As you are. Because if you love Christ and are on the journey with Him, He lives in you. See? You actually are MORE than enough.

Friday Funday!!

October 9, 2015 By Lisa Lewis

Doesn’t this look amazing? This is a new dish we tried at the new outdoor dining area called The Yard next to AT&T Park. The dish is called Lamb Poutine. A bit of a twist on the traditional Canadian dish. And it WAS amazing. Glad the Hubster and I shared it! The culinary talent was shared with us and was a way of demonstrating Image Bearing.

This is an amazing mural on the side of a store in the Noe Valley neighborhood of San Francisco. It was a fun discovery that simply shows forth for Christ.

Yesterday I drove south from the Bay Area and saw this along the way. A very creative trailer; reminding me of The Wind in the Willows. A gypsy cart headed ‘no where in particular’. Creativity is a way of showing forth the image of our Creator.

How do these photos tie together?

One of my favorite things all my adult life has been looking forward to the weekend: no school, no homework, no work, different routine, sports, friend over for dinner, church, naps, etc. So I’ve thought of Friday as a FunDay for a Very.Long.Time.

So here we are! It’s Friday Funday. And I’m away from home for the weekend! I have the privilege of being away at a retreat focused on scrapbooking. Lots of laughter and snacks and wine. Now I know there are those of you who wonder how might this fit in my series on Living in Tandem. Well, I’m glad you asked!

When we have opportunity to gather in community with friends to listen, encourage, share stories and laugh we are image bearers in a way that is authentic to who we are in Christ. We can risk being vulnerable, risk being available to others, and simply enjoy one another’s company.

It’s not easy to make time to break away from the responsibilities of our lives. And yet, getting away to refresh, renew and recreate is exactly what God intends in a Sabbath rest.

So it’s the beginning of the weekend. Friday Funday. How are you going to renew this weekend?

The Push & Pull of Being a Control Freak

October 8, 2015 By Lisa Lewis

It was May and I was in the 7^th month of my pregnancy. Teaching 5^th grade at a newly re-opened neighborhood school was such a joy; the students were at a great age to enjoy seeing the baby’s elbow move across my stomach while I was teaching. The laughter and oohs & aahs were so fun. I left school that Wednesday afternoon to head to my regular OB appointment; excited to hear the baby’s heartbeat again and know how s/he was developing. Little did I know that was the last time I would be in my classroom that school year.

My doctor’s appointment didn’t go so well. What I thought had been Braxton Hicks turned out to be actual pre-term labor. The doctor sent me home with a prescription to stop the contractions and strict orders to be “on bed rest”. What was I supposed to do now? I had a class to take care of and a nursery to get ready. Magnifying the moment was the sad fact that my husband had moved out of our marriage & home two months earlier. I was alone. And I would have to ask for help.

For some people that is no big deal; asking for help makes perfect sense. We’re all wired to be in community and to be sharing and caring for one another. Unfortunately I was not raised to be asking anyone for anything. Helping others in need was a given, but it was NOT ok to be the one in need. To find myself forced to ask for, and depend on, help from others was SO HARD!!!

I came face to face with my pride and my need for control in big ways. And they were not pretty. I had two dogs, a cat, a house, and a classroom that all needed care. How was I going to ask for help with all this? Who would have time? Why would they care? How humiliating!!

Feeling needy and helpless was so foreign.

Have you been there? I wish I could say ‘that was then and now I’ve grown past that and let me tell you how to get over it’ but the truth is I still battle the pride monster.

It’s a push & pull: trying to push past the scary feeling of needing to ask for help and trying to resist the pull back into the old habit.

Paul said it best in his letter to the Roman believers “I know that all God’s commands are spiritual, but I’m not. Isn’t this also your experience? Yes I’m full of myself—after all I’ve spent a long time in sin’s prison. What I don’t understand about myself is that I decide one way, but then I act another, doing things I absolutely despise. So I can’t be trusted to figure out what is best for myself and then do it, it becomes obvious that God’s command is necessary.” (The Message)

One of the most challenging parts of living in tandem is learning to let go of being in control. If you’re a person who says ‘I could never ride a tandem bike’ you might want to join me in working on control issues! Our need for control starts for different reasons but what I think we’re all really facing is the same issue of trust.

This is no small thing.

How have you dealt with issues of trust?

When Relationships Hit a Rough Patch

October 7, 2015 By Lisa Lewis

Do you like to daydream? I do. I developed a very active daydream imagination when I was a child living in chaos. It was my favorite way of ‘going away’ in my head.

Wouldn’t it be great if we lived in an ideal world where there was no conflict of any kind?

Unfortunately we don’t. Yet. But in the mean time we have to navigate the twists and turns and bumps that conflict brings along the way. Sometimes that’s easier than others.

It’s easy when we don’t have to interact with conflict up close and personal. We can pretend conflict doesn’t exist since there is some distance between us. Or maybe we pretend the person we have the conflict with doesn’t exist?

Distance is an insulator. It can give us emotional space and time to process how we think or feel. Of course pretending that conflict doesn’t exist is not a healthy, healing way of dealing with conflict long term. But it can work as a temporary fix. A little Queen of Egypt behavior is in all of us at one time or another. You’ve heard that saying?

She’s like the Queen of Egypt—she lives in D-Nile.

Too much denial will eventual lead to zero relationship. A conflict without resolution becomes a place for bitterness. And when we’re full of bitterness it leaks out of us and we’re no fun to be around. I wish I was telling you all this from my notes in a class I took. Unfortunately not. I know that of which I speak. Changing my way of dealing with conflict has been challenging at best and grueling at worst. So if I can encourage you to keep short accounts and not let a root of bitterness take hold that many might be defiled then I will hold up a road sign that says: DON”T GO THIS WAY!!

Learning new habits can be fun but there is a letting go of another way of behaving that also has to happen; especially in relationship communication.

Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.

I know this verse by heart. And like most of the verses I memorized as a younger Christ follower, I committed it to memory because I needed to learn to apply what it said. You see, I had it backwards. Completely. Backwards.

Healthy communication is healthy because there isn’t any name calling, critical tone, sassy attitude, or negativity of any kind. I didn’t know how to do that. In any relationship.

Can you say HOT MESS?

Yeah. That was me. But God…

Learning to deal with communication differently has taken my lifetime. I’m what might be called a slow learner. At least a reluctant, stubborn learner. Thankfully the old habits rarely rear their ugly, hurtful heads now.

Good communication is possible. But you have to be willing to make changes in your own way of doing things to find a comfortable common way of communicating that works for both parties. This takes time, effort and practice. Just like riding a tandem bike.

Learning to communicate peacefully and effectively is a skill that can be acquired but it’s also evidence of the fruit of the Spirit in our lives. The word ‘fruit’ is singular in this verse which means you don’t separate out one to focus on; they are altogether a Way God evidences Himself to those we come in contact with. Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness and self-control are all together being formed in His children by the work of the Holy Spirit.

Isn’t this a cute pillow? I found it one day when I wasn’t looking for a pillow…I’m sure you know how that goes. It sits on our bed, a daily reminder of the fact that we continue to learn to live in tandem.

When a Soul Needs Quiet

October 6, 2015 By Lisa Lewis

All morning long I’ve been juggling calendar and email; sending and receiving texts; straightening up around the house; taking care of business. It’s only 11:00 am and I feel spent. Part of me feels as if nothing has gotten done. My infamous to-do list has boxes checked so if that’s my measuring stick I know I am ok.

But something is still not settled.

My soul needs quiet.

It has been a long, slow journey to awareness of that fact. Detoxing from years of too full calendar space and changing habits has not come easily to me.

I have lived a life of performance to earn favor. A life bound up by believing lies that perpetuated the performance even after following Christ.

But God…

Whispers quietly to come be still and know.

But God…

Invites me to Come to Him when I am weary and burdened and He will give me rest.

But God…

Speaks words of comfort as He promises to never leave me or forget me.

Those are literally my two favorite words in the Bible. I have them circled in my Bible…

When my life feels overwhelming and tasks feel impossible to accomplish

When I feel my internal world swirling

When I slip into listening to the lies I have heard so many times

I know my soul needs quiet.

How can quiet happen when it seems there is so much noise?!

It’s a discipline. A thing to try. A habit to be formed.

I have learned to say those two amazing words But God…

And remember God has a different idea for me.

He is bigger than any issue we face. He knows. He cares. He longs to have us aware of His abiding Presence; to come to Him in a breath to slow down and be quiet.

Our souls need to be filled up before we are poured out in our days. And refilled in the middle of the day! And throughout the day!!!

Living in Tandem is a journey. A soul journey of learning to live aware. A journey implies a beginning and an end. I believe the end will be when He calls each of us to our promised eternal home with Him.

The beginning? Well that depends on you.

What’s your response to His invitation to get on the bike with Him?

But God…

A Good Road to Ride

October 5, 2015 By Lisa Lewis

Since I have been thinking a lot about what the idea Living in Tandem looks like for this series, it seems I see correlations all over the place! Some are more obvious than others, but this correlation might be a stretch for you: your calendar has an impact on Living in Tandem.

As a coach I like to know more about people than what they do for a living. It’s helpful to know how someone spends their time; if they hear themselves frequently saying “can’t, I’m busy”, what’s filling their calendar? A person’s calendar says a lot about their priorities.

The predominant American culture is driven. Calendars are full; over full to the point of producing stress. Parents are recruiting help to shuttle littles to their own over-filled activity list since we still haven’t figured teleportation out yet. (Star Trek, anyone?) This calendar thing is not just a Gen-X or Millenial issue. It didn’t occur because of the tech revolution. The problem with our over-full lives began post- WWII in the “rebuilding” of the American dream. Baby Boomers were the first generation to experience what it means to be a ‘latch key kid’. And because it’s not a recent development, the problem is entrenched in society. So what are we supposed to do?

We have to say No more.

I’ve fought this fight on several fronts so I know how hard it is to say No and mean it. Here are the reasons our calendars tend to fill to the brin:

1) We see others ‘doing a lot’ so we think it’s expected of us too.

2) We are afraid of missing out on something for ourselves or our children’s lives (search #FOMO) It’s a thing.

3) We are afraid of having to face our inner selves if we have too much time on our hands.

4) We’ve got a lot riding on us (other’s expectations) so we perform

I lived under the tyranny of these 4 calendar dictators for more than half my life. When the Hubster and I first married he began asking for something I didn’t know how to provide: whitespace on the calendar. I had no idea how to let go of the things that filled our weekends and evenings. A lot of anxiety welled up in me imagining how I would be letting people down or not doing my share or… And what in the world would we do with an empty calendar one Saturday a month?!!

In 1995, a book was published that we later were introduced to. Margin: Restoring Emotional, Physical, Financial, and Time Reserves to Overloaded Lives. Now there’s a title! Reading the book was one step. Putting action to what we read took more effort. I began to recognize how the struggles with an over-filled calendar were negatively impacting our marriage and sons. Lack of margin was wearing us all down and that wasn’t going to end well.

I wrestled with my issues found in the 4 reasons above. I’ve had many to wrestle! But in my wrestling I wanted to know God’s thoughts on these issues. I found comfort in this passage:

When I first felt Micah 6:8 resonate in my soul we were singing it in church. The simplicity and love I found there was so gentle. There wasn’t a load dumped on my shoulders. I began to realize ever so slowly that God’s desires for me were for my good not for my performance and over commitment.

Learning to say No was hard but it was good. Just like change. I had to let go of over commitment to say yes to my husband’s need for more whitespace. Living in Tandem is like that. It’s a Good Road to Ride. Giving and receiving.

You might be facing a season of over commitment. Or you may find your life is characterized by over commitment as mine was. You CAN make a little change to take that first step that can lead to another and another until the over committed calendar is tamed. It takes time, but you can do it!

A Very Special Day

October 4, 2015 By Lisa Lewis

Day 4

It’s officially fall. My favorite season. School’s in session. Baseball and football overlap for a few weeks. The temperatures start to drop and the leaves begin to change color.

And oh the colors! Even some California trees get in the color act, showing us change happens, even in California.

I first heard the quote on my photo spoken by Christine Caine on her weekly podcast in 2014. I was struck by it’s simple truth. Change is healthy. Change is good. Change is inevitable.

Then why is change so hard?

I literally had to convince myself that change is good. I made it my computer password for a long while just to repeat it like a mantra. Changeisgood Changeisgood

Today I have completed my 58^th trip around the sun. And in those 58 annual trips I have grown and changed.

And to think I was done growing up and considered an adult at this point! There’s been more growth since this last picture than the 18 years in pictures. But not physical growth. I’m still vertically challenged as my sons tell me!

I don’t remember at what point in my spiritual learning I first came across Isaiah 61, but I remember thinking I want to be called an ‘oak of righteousness’ someday.

It’s in Isaiah 61:1-3 we see the purpose of Christ prophesied…and it is the portion of Scripture Jesus chose to read aloud in the synagogue when He began His public ministry ( found in Luke 4:18-19)

The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me,

because the Lord has anointed me

to proclaim good news to the poor.

He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,

to proclaim freedom for the captives

and release from darkness for the prisoners,[a]

to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor

and the day of vengeance of our God,

to comfort all who mourn,

and provide for those who grieve in Zion—

to bestow on them a crown of beauty

instead of ashes,

the oil of joy

instead of mourning,

and a garment of praise

instead of a spirit of despair.

They will be called oaks of righteousness,

a planting of the Lord

for the display of his splendor

Living things grow. To have been planted by the Lord… to be for the display of His splendor… to be called an oak of righteousness…

Growing things change. I am not done changing; I have many areas left to be shaped and refined while I’m still here. But thanks be to God I am not the same person I was when I first met Him! He has given me the oil of gladness and a garland of praise!

Change is good. Happy Birthday to me! Thank You Jesus for helping me change and grow and learn along the Way!

Living in Tandem Requires Movement (Day 3)

October 3, 2015 By Lisa Lewis

This quote is attributed to Albert Einstein.

What’s true of an individual bicycle is definitely true in tandem cycling. It’s a lot easier to fall over when you’re not moving forward! And moving implies change.

I’m aware that some of you reading may not be in a committed relationship and you might think this blog series isn’t geared to your season of life. I want to state here on Day 3 of #write31days that Living in Tandem is primarily about learning to live in tandem with God, our One True Captain. And although my friend Peggy suggested tandem cycling to help me deal with my marriage, God had bigger plans. Tandem cycling is a metaphor I have learned for my spiritual life. I didn’t know that I was going to grow spiritually in this cycling challenge at first. Most of the time I was praying super spiritual prayers like “Please don’t let us die! Our boys are too young to lose their parents!” Or really selfless prayers like “if we crash just let it be over quick! I’m ready to be with You Jesus!” But as the training rides got longer and I became a better stoker I had more time to relax into what I was seeing and experiencing. On those rides the Lord started to show me how my need for control in all my relationships (family, friends, work, etc.) was evidence that I was NOT TRUSTING God. Ouch.

Here’s how I know. You can see the picture:

You can’t ride a tandem alone from the back. You need someone in the front to be the Captain. The Captain steers, brakes, shifts gears and helps balance the bicycle whether at a stop or on the move. The stoker (the back seat rider) balances, pedals and encourages the Captain. From this list, who has more responsibility?

If I kept trying to steer from the back we would tip over. I can’t shift; the levers are on the front handlebars. I can’t brake either for the same reason. I can however help balance by not moving around on the saddle. I have to pedal because the bike is designed with in sync pedals; working together to move forward, and keep moving forward, is a huge part of this metaphor.

We need to communicate to move. And the Captain initiates the communication.

Let that sink in.

I’m not the one to say “Hey! Here’s my plan. Let’s go.” Well I can say it, and I can push the bike forward, but if it’s not the Captain’s idea, the results are likely to be unpleasant, at best. I began to see the spiritual connections, even though I’m sometimes a slow learner.

God initiates the momentum for movement in my spiritual life. I respond. I have a part to play but I’m not in control. The Captain is.

These musings spilled over to meditating on Romans 12:1

I urge you therefore brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service of worship.

See that phrase that tells us it’s all God’s initiating? …by the mercies of God…

Because of what He has already done, I am able to learn to live in tandem with Him.

My cooperation allows the tandem to move forward.

How is your cooperation with God? Learning to listen and cooperate is part of Living in Tandem.

Living in Tandem with Others

October 2, 2015 By Lisa Lewis

Do you ever wonder how you would handle (respond) a friend pointing out you’re out of line? I don’t mean a literal line like at the grocery store. I mean when how you’re thinking about something, or acting in response to someone, is out of line with what God has in mind.

When my friend Peggy pointed out my bad attitude toward my husband’s way of leading our family it wasn’t easy to hear. I can imagine it wasn’t easy for her to hear me whining and complaining in the first place! I was often confiding in her about the little things Colin did or didn’t do that were driving me crazy. She listened and then asked me how I was helping the situation. I said things like “well I tell him what’s bugging me- I don’t keep it hidden.” Peggy laughed and then asked, “Do you tell God as often as you tell Colin?” I just stared at her and simply said “No”. Her question didn’t come with criticism or condescension. It was her simple way of planting a seed for me to nurture.

Peggy prayed with and for me. She listened to, laughed with and encouraged me. She watched our baby boy and invited our kindergarten son over to play with her kindergartener. But most importantly, Peggy pointed me to the Truth. She was (and is) a woman of the Word. Peggy didn’t lecture; we didn’t do Bible studies together. She would simply weave God’s Word into our conversations with gentleness and grace. Peggy was like the big sister I never had. We had lots of deep conversations and laughed a ton. She always had Kleenex for me when the waterworks started (which was regularly!). In a word, Peggy was my mentor.

I didn’t ask her to mentor me. I don’t know if she even thought about our relationship in that way originally. But her way of doing life was so helpful for me to witness and her friendship was such a gift that God used Peggy to shape me ever so slowly. Our friendship allowed her to speak of hard things to me; to point me to the Truth in a way that I could both hear and receive.

Proverbs 27:9 says Oil and perfume make the heart glad, and the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel.

A mentor can be that kind of friend in your life. A friend who hears your heart and points you to Jesus. A friend who counsels you with wisdom and grace as well as humor. Learning to listen to words like these is a part of living in tandem. Webster defines tandem as “a group of two people or things that work together or are associated with each other.” Allowing yourself to be mentored by someone, whether it is in a work setting, spiritual setting or a combination, is a way of living in tandem.

I am a better human being because I have been mentored. We all have many areas to grow and change in life; I’ve had the privilege of several mentors speaking into my life through different seasons. I believe mentoring is helpful, fun and, dare I say, vital, for each of us.

The other side of mentoring is becoming a mentor. But more on that aspect of living in tandem in a future post!

How do you find a mentor? What do you and a mentor do? Should it be formal or casual? Is this a commitment for life? (You might say Yikes!) Sure there are lots of questions but there are just as many answers because there isn’t just one way of having/being a mentor. I’d love to hear some of your questions/concerns about mentoring. Or maybe you have a story to share that can encourage another woman? Please chime in!

Write 31 Days Writing Challenge Day 1

October 1, 2015 By Lisa Lewis

What a challenge to Write 31 Days! A blog post a day for the 31 consecutive days of October. Every.single.day. Yikes! I’m not doing this alone either. There are over 1,000 writers tapping away daily for the next 31 days on many different topics. Nine different theme categories for writers to share their passion for words. My writing category is Inspiration & Faith. The eight other categories allow writers lots of creative space. Please take some time this month to connect with other writers as well. I’ll share the link to where you can check them out at the end of this post.

I write a lot in my head. It’s safe there. No risk. But there’s no growth without change and no stretching without risk so I have to put my fingers to the keyboard and make it happen.

It has taken me several weeks to land on my theme. I considered what I love to talk with people about, figuring that would be an easy way to write. I thought about different ways to approach the one thing I can’t help but do when I’m talking: encouraging people. I love to listen, hearing what’s going on in someone’s life; specifically their spiritual life. I’ve decided to put these two things together. Encouraging and listening. I’m going to write for 31 Days serving up encouragement to step forward in your life in 3 different ways: Getting to Know God; Soul Searching; and Serving Others. My series title? Living in Tandem.

Why that title? Well it’s a long story so I’ll tell you in pieces over the next 31 posts!! Let me start by blaming my friend and mentor Peggy because she pointed out an area of my life that was in dire need of change…my attitude toward my husband. 18 years ago she told me I needed to get on the back of a tandem bike and learn to work out some attitude issues. I thought she was kidding but she persisted. Colin & I borrowed their tandem and rode it around their neighborhood. I was petrified! I couldn’t steer, I couldn’t brake or control the speed! Colin was completely responsible for our very lives!!! My need for control, fears and lack of trust were activated 100% during that short turn around a couple of blocks. Colin had a great time. I mean GREAT TIME!! When we got back to their driveway my heart was nearly jumping out of my throat and he had the giant little kid grin. He loved it and I was petrified. That spoke volumes.

As much as I hated to admit I had such big issues to deal with, I had to agree with Peggy. I needed to work through some big things and the tandem bike was obviously a ‘fun for Colin’ option. We went tandem shopping that day, but it wasn’t until several weeks later, Father’s Day of 1997, that we got our first tandem bicycle. It has become a significant tool God has used to grow & change me and, dare I say, shape me? Learning to live in tandem in all areas of my life has been (and continues to be) a journey of many miles. Over the miles I’ve come to realize this metaphor isn’t simply about marriage. I promise I won’t overwork the metaphor on a daily basis but I am really excited to share what I’ve learned along the Way. Most of all I’m excited to show you how these big ideas are for you too, even if you never get on the back of a literal tandem bicycle!

Obviously I would love to have you not only read my blog series but comment on what you read; letting me and others know how these words have encouraged you. Or maybe how you take issue with what I’ve said. Or perhaps you’ll have feedback on my writing style. I’m not the authority; I’m simply a fellow pilgrim moving through this life hoping to make positive impact on those I encounter. Your feedback will be so helpful!

Will you join me on this ride?

Come back here to get caught up if you miss a post. I’ll be using this as my landing page so each post will have a link to it’s page here and I’ll add it daily. And here’s the link to the main page for Write 31 Days writing challenge where you can find other amazing writers sharing their various passions.

Day 2 Living in Tandem with Others

Day 3 Living in Tandem Requires Movement

Day 4 A Very Special Day

Day 5 A Good Road to Ride

Day 6 When a Soul Needs Quiet

Day 7 When Relationships Hit a Rough Patch

Day 8 The Push & Pull of Being a Control Freak

Day 9 Friday Funday!!

Day 10 What is Enough?

Day 11 The Basic Elements of Living in Tandem

Day 12 Who’s in Charge Here?

Day 13 What’s Your Why?